People
generally have two kinds of needs during a home purchase. First are the
transactional needs, such as searching for a home, obtaining financing,
negotiating the terms of purchase, completing paperwork and legal
documents, and arranging the move. The second are emotional needs that are
involved in a home purchase, which can be where the most stress occurs in
a home purchase. The following are just a handful of tips to help you and
your family ease the stress of moving.
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Although you may
have lived in your current residence for just a few years, the same few
years can be half the lifetime of a seven- or eight-year-old, and can
include all the years he or she can remember. Your current residence may
be the only home your children have ever known, where they feel safe and
comfortable. It may be the center of your childrens' world.
Be sure to announce
the move in a completely positive way. You might talk about how beautiful
the neighborhood is and how good the schools are. Bring your children to
the new house, if you live close enough that it is possible to do so.
Otherwise, positively describe the new house. Find out what your
children's favorite things are in your current home, and then try to
re-create them in the new home. Keep your children actively involved in
the process. For instance, don't just promise that they can decorate their
new rooms, but take them shopping for paint, bedspreads, carpets, and
other items that will make the experience more fun and comforting.
Your children are
bound to have worries, fears, and sorrows during the move. They may be
moving away from friends and family they have known their whole lives.
Find ways to make parting pleasant. You can plan a going-away party and
let your children invite their own guests. Take pictures of everyone and
create a photo album. If your children are old enough, allow them to take
pictures of the neighborhood that they will want to remember.
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